Before we get started on the 90 Day Feminization Challenge, we need to prepare ourselves. If you haven’t oriented yourself with the details of the challenge, what it is, is not, and what to expect, I strongly recommend reading the introduction page and subscribing. It will give you the right context and keep you updated with my progress through the course of the 90 days and beyond.

Preparing The Body for Male to Female Transformation

People say that if the mind is in place, the body is merely a vessel. I do agree, however, I have also found that if we trick the mind a bit, making it do your bidding becomes a whole lot better. I have found that this – cleansing ritual almost – immediately puts me in the right state of mind.  Here’s what I did:

Take a shower

Yes, seems pretty simple, doesn’t it? Trust me, it is not. On an average, a female spends much longer a time in the shower than men do. Get used to spending a decent amount of time in the tub or under the shower. I start by shampooing my hair and conditioning it. While my hair sits inside a shower cap soaking in all the goodness of the conditioner, I do my soles. I keep

I keep my feet soaked in a small bucket full of warm water mixed with lemon juice, a generous helping of exfoliating salt and some amount of bathing gel. If you don’t have access to bathing salts, just replace it with a coarse salt – sea salt, or just regular table salt even.

While my feet soaks in the concoction, I do my nails. I cut them short. No styling them yet, we have 3 months to do all that. Let’s trim it down to the essentials and we can rebuild from there. Anyway, 3 months of being rather abusive on my body, these parts have well lost their shapes.

Exfoliate your face

Next is perhaps the most important part of the preparation. It’s always tempting to shave and get all clean. But that needs to wait a little longer. I take a large half cut lemon, hot water and sugar. I keep the sugar dipped in the water along with the lemon. Now, scoop up the sugar with the lemon and slowly but with pressure, scrub your face, neck, throat and upper shoulders. Basically, all the areas that are generally exposed to the sun and the environment every day.

Keep scrubbing till the sugar melts away. Your skin is going to scream as all the dead and darkened skin gets scrubbed off. Be careful here. DO NOT apply too much pressure or you might bruise your skin and it will look like you got punched and dragged along a particularly scruffy road.

Shave, Shave, Shave.

This will take time, lots of time. So, either make sure you are ready to spend a couple of hours easily in the shower, or plan to come back multiple times through the day. If you happen to have a sauna at home, give yourself a good hour in it before you start shaving.

For the rest of us, there’s hot water and a towel. Take a thick towel soaked in hot water and rinse it. Wrap it around the area you are about to shave. Give it a good 15 minutes. This will soften the area and make it much easier for you.

Use a high quality razor. You are after all genetically a man, don’t go for female razors; they are not meant to handle caveman hair.

Start with your face and work downwards – your chest, armpits, torso, arms, thighs, inner thighs, legs, and finish with your crotch and backside.

Shaving between the ass cheeks and anus is the trickiest part as it’s the hardest to see. This is why you need a handheld mirror for this step. To do this effectively, lay a handheld mirror on the floor, facing up. Then, squat above the mirror, and begin shaving. Continue to rinse your razor frequently to prevent the cartridge from becoming clogged.

Shaving Anus crossdresser

Tip: It’s entirely upto you if you want to wax in stead of shave. It just doesn’t give me the right results but I know many who prefer it. 

Preparing The Mind for Male to Female Transformation

Now that you are all cleaned, it’s time prepare your mind for the transformation. It is very important that you DO NOT SKIP this part. It’s one thing to tell yourself that you want to be a girl and quite another for the subconscious mind to believe in it. You will need to train it.

There will be an entire post dedicated to it, but till then, make sure you follow these below points:

The power of perfumes for crossdressers

The sense of smell is one of the most potent behavioural stimulants known to humans. Use it to your advantage. Depending on the amount of privacy access to shops that you have, get yourself a feminine perfume. Spray it lightly on yourself, on the panties you will be wearing (more on that in the next step), on your wrists, behind your ears and on the handkerchief you carry all day. Make this a daily post-shower habit. Let’s get rid of that man-smell!

Feminine Perfume for crossdressers


The 24/7 Panties Rule

This is imperative! Get yourself a 4-5 comfortable, daily wear panties. I avoid extremes on both ends – boy shorts and G-Strings are a both no-no. Remember, you are not wearing these to be sexy on a date, you’ll need to wear this at ALL times, hence pick something that you’ll be comfortable in but not something that does not give you a decidedly girly feeling.

best panties for crossdressers

I always pick either bikinis or hipster panties. Again, depending on your privacy levels, pick a colour that works for you. For many, it’s better that your unknowing friends see a black waistband poke out for a few seconds than a pink one. Thankfully for me, I can choose any I like.

Wear these panties at ALL times. Under your work and school/college pants, at home and when you sleep. Don’t worry about tucking your manhood away yet, we’ll get to that soon enough.

Male to Female Transformation Hypnosis

Get yourself a pair of stereo earphones or headphones and listen to male to female hypnosis for as long as you can. It doesn’t always have to vocal hypnosis either, I often just listen to female pop queen numbers. The important thing is that it gives a constant reminder to your subconscious mind who you really are. It might not seem to be too effective and certainly won’t put you in *real hypnosis*, but the constant vocal instructions does leave its mark in just a few hours.

I just love what Isabella Valentine produces but you can find many free audio hypnosis online. If you have the time and space, you can also watch visual hypnosis but it might be too, well, hardcore at this moment. I’ll leave the link here for the brave of heart!

Embrace Digital Symbolism

Yet another push for your mind is embracing femininity in your digital space. Paint your world feminine as much as you can. Here’s what I recommend you do:

  • Change your Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and every other social media app on your phone to have your female profiles by default.
  • Change the wallpapers on your computer and phone to be feminine. Have photos of someone your admire, female colour patterns, floral based images and things like that.
  • Get yourself a bunch of feminine music on your phone and listen to that regularly.

Do NOT Fap (musterbate)!: Whatever you do, do not go about jacking yourself. Hold on, let the feeling flow and embrace you.

There you go, if you have followed every step closely, you are ready for Day 1 of the 90 Day Feminization Challenge. Don’t worry if you can’t get to all of them in one day. Take your time but also push your boundaries and get out of your comfort zones.

Until next time!